Short Guys Get No Respect! Except...

Anyone under 6ft these days gets no respect. Last night I was walking with my daughter and a well dressed guy walks by but he's only 5'3" and she whispers (but not quietly enough) "Daddy look there's a really, really, short man over there."

I said to her "I'm sure he heard you and you've just made his day." SMH I can only imagine what he goes through.

I mean I'm about 5'10" and women say to me all the time "You need to grow up!"  But I stopped at 16. LOL!

But if you are rich and famous "SIZE doesn't Matter!"  Yeah hot chicks will still date you even with their stilettos on if you're a baller shot caller like my man Kevin Hart. Do you Kevin do You. LOL!

Is the Devil Trying to Destroy Black People?

In a YouTube Video I recently watched on Facebook Television Preacher Jesse Duplantis, made some very interesting statements about Black people to say the least. I think he meant well however his statements were too allegorical to make a real impact on the plight of Black people. But listen to the video yourself above and form your own opinion.

It's interesting. I think as another Facebook user Crystal Gaines stated "there's SO much more to be said and DONE than just singing Amazing Grace." I also know he's using Amazing Grace as a metaphor for putting our trust in God again.

However,  we have to remember we sung Amazing Grace but also ran the Underground Railroad, had uprising and rebellions, started our on business and religious institutions, boycotted, protested, and fought in the Civil War. And I say this being a Christian.

I can take some more than others but I'm not a big fan of tele-evangelist and preachers especially their perspective on religious application on social issues. Their opinion seems to be glib at best.

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Black Man sent to Prison Even After Overpaying His Child Support

Clifford Hall photo Courtesy Fox 26

There has been a popular media controversy about Clifford Hall a Black man who has been sent to jail for six months due to a issue with his child support payments. Due to clerical or administrative errors on his job his child support payments where in arrears.

Mr. Hall subsequently paid all his child support payments and then some from what was reported in the media but still was sent to jail for 6 months.  To be honest this is a cloudy civil court case. I I don't know all the details.

But this much I do know. The legal system was obviously abusive to Clifford Hall. I can't help but feel the prison industrial complex is behind moves like these to put more black men behind bars.

A lot of people are going to jail for situations like this. It's a way to justify putting Black men in jail is all I can see. It makes no sense.

He will be charged with paying Child Support while in prison. So when he gets out of prison he will have lost his job and be in arrears again.So technically speaking they can put him in jail again. They're setting him up to fail.

The Prison Industrial complex has a way to send functioning Black men to jail. They know black men are last hired and first fired so if you can't always pay on time they send you to prison.

If you survive prison you now have a record so it's even harder to find a job so you fall behind again. It's a Catch 22.  So now they don't just have thugs and felons as slave labor in prisons they have the working class and middle class guys struggling to be fathers in jail too.

What is great about this strategy is Child Support is a wedge issue between Black men and women. So Black women will most likely not speak out or support Black men who go to prison for this type of mishap. It will cause further division in the Black family and community.

It is quite a racket Texas and other states have going on. I hope people can work together to solve child support cases on their own without going through the legal process.

The courts and the legal system isn't doing what's in the best interest for families and children by locking fathers up who are working hard to be in their children's lives. This trend is a disgrace.

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Kamau's Thoughts of the Day

Should America Help Africa. People are wondering if America can help Africa and if our intentions are genuine? Is American genuinely concerned with Africa or is its concerns really neocolonialist in nature?

This is how I feel about the issue. Yes, Africa has resources and promise. But let's face it Africa has a lot of problems too.

Many Blacks in the US would like to help Africa and they lobby and put pressure on the US to help. So it is a complex issue.

Africa is a huge continent. Some of the nations are doing well others are languishing. People of good will of all colors are going to want to see less disease, hunger, and drought in Africa. So in my humble opinion we should advocate for Africa but also keep our eyes open to people trying neocolonialist efforts to control the continent.

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Remember it's Father's Day not Bash Dead Beat Dad's Day

You know I don't have time to really "go in" on why I have ambiguous feelings at best and not thrilled about these Hallmark Cards for single moms on Father's Day. I'm trying to enjoy my day. However, I will make a couple of points and send you to a provocative link.

I know people want to give single mothers these cards and it's up to you to buy those cards.  But I'm Just Asking (IJA) can we have just 1 day where responsible Fathers are recognized?

Honestly, A single mom is probably an extraordinary mom or even SUPER mom but: they are not Fathers! Can't we have one day in peace without a sideshow of condescending remarks tainting the day due to deadbeat dads?

It's freaking "Father's Day" for Pete's Sake not: Bash Deadbeat Dad's Day! SMH. And ironically Hallmark markets this to the Black community when the Center of Disease Control (CDC) just released a new study stating Black Fathers are more actively involved in their children's lives than men of other ethnic groups.

People have 364 days of the year to bash Dead Beat dads. Can we have our 1 freaking day in peace? My name is Kamau Austin and I approve this message! Read more on Hallmark's controversial card

Also I would never try to bash less than perfect mothers on Mother's Day. Why would I want to talk about sidebar issues on such an important days that needs to be recognized.

For instance women have started telling me Happy Mother's Day because my daughter lives with me. I tell them I appreciate the thought but my daughter has a mom. I can't replace her mom.

Recently I was asked by a Facebook Friend "First, would you have accepted the kudos if your daughter's mother was an absentee? Second, looks like black art to me. Could it be that it is merely marketed to black people because it is by "black people"?

"My response was All my daughter's care is on me and I receive little support or visitation from my daughter's mom right now. My daughter has big problems with her mom so all her care is on me.

That's why she is with me. There are a lot of ugly issues.

However, I try to encourage some forgiveness and healing so one day my daughter can have a relationship with her. No one can replace her mom so I hope and pray their relationship can be healed one day.

This is no reflection on you I can understand your position. You do the work so there's nothing wrong with your perspective.

However, I don't like Hallmark marketing a card to our community like that based on skewed stereotypes. If they are going to have a Father's Day card for single moms let it be a card for all ethnic groups.

But for me I'd never want to take away from my daughter's mom. None of us are perfect. I've been in a labor and have seen what women go through to have babies. I am humbled by their sacrifices." 

Also if it is just marketed to the African American community bad idea IMO. Moreover, according to recent studies of the CDC Black fathers are more involved in their children's lives than men of other ethnic groups. So Hallmark shouldn't be marketing a card like that primarily to the Black Community if that is the case. Market it across the board if they feel compelled to market it.

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On Warriors, Activists, Friends, and Failures - Kamau's Qu!ps.

Great Warriors must 1st learn to conquer the battles within them ~

Activist and people looking to right historic social wrongs must remember that it is hard to move in a forward positive direction if you can't move beyond the negative injustices of the past ~

Strength isn't developed in a vacuum.  It is created through tension and forged in resistance ~

Failure is a great training tool for success if you learn from it. Yet there are times failure isn't an experience you can afford~

Family and great friendships can survive disagreements, disappointments, and differences. Great love can repair any torn or frayed relationship ~

To increasing know God is to increasingly trust God. After spending some time getting to know God I can truly say Faith in God is Faith well placed ~

Balance in life is so necessary but so hard to achieve ~

I find sometimes life can be so challenging that just meditating & focusing on the presence of God can heal us & the situation ~

 
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How to Deal with the Loss of Your Mom During Mother's Day

Spiritual Sista's Mother's Day Weekend

Mother's Day is a joyous and important day to celebrate the most important person in many of our lives our mothers or mother figures.  Unfortunately, for many of us Mother's Day reminds of us that our moms are no longer with us.

How do we deal with the fact that our beloved mother's are no longer with us? What do we do to keep from feeling depressed, sad, and lonely on Mother's Day?

My good Facebook friend of mine Bernice Bright Dickey, a brilliant educator and author in the field of grief management was kind enough to share some of her grief management insights. Bernice lost her husband and oldest daughter in a tragic automobile accident years ago so she knows a great amount about dealing with grief and great loss.

Ms. Dickey, was able to hold on to her faith in God during such a painful and challenging time.  She writes about her coping strategies and faith insights in her book "My #1 is Still My #1!" She stresses as her most salient strategy: "put God 1st in your life!" Checkout what Bernice had to say about dealing with the loss of your mother during Mother's Day...

"Bern's Pearls of Wisdom on How to Deal
 with Your Late Mom's Passing Mother's Day"(c)

You will need more of God's Grace, not more strength during this difficult journey through bereavement - TRUST ME! When we are weak, HE IS STRONG!

Let God carry y'all through this season of FIRSTS (Mother's Day, Father's Day, birthdays, graduations, etc.) and don't try to be strong or put on a facade! Allow the tears to flow until flooding, God's got all of y'all in His bosom let Him comfort you and your family!

There's no need for y'all to front for each other either, grief is personal, but it shouldn't be private amongst family members! Talk about it!

It's on everyone's mind anyways and talking about it takes away the loneliness and isolation you're feeling by keeping your feelings to yourself! CRY! LAUGH! CREATE NEW MEMORIES!

All in the name of your loved one who is gone, but never absent from your heart, mind and thoughts! For more encouragement for your grief journey, buy my book "My #1 Is Still My #1" at www.bernicebrightdickey.com

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