Donald Sterling, Racism in Business, and The Urgency to Support Black Economics

OK many Blacks and minorities are understandably mad at Donald Sterling's Racist Rant Revelations. I guess now we'll have a protest and boycott. Hear the whole Donald Sterling Audio

C'mon Micheal Jordan, Koby Bryant, LeBron James have helped the NBA grow like never before. Magic Johnson helped build the NBA and is now worth half a billion dollars from business investments.

And Donald Sterling is making comments about not bringing him to the game. Black players helped build the NBA to it's current success. Black people buy a lot of tickets and this guy spews his venom like that?

But I have to tell you how I truly feel about our usual responses to racial insults and injustice with protest and boycotts. Protest, boycotts are all about reactions and negative response. And they have their place.

But what about our proactive long term response? Let's invest in some microfinance organizations, youth entrepreneurial programs, and Black crowd funding sites and fund our own businesses to national scale.
Other ethnic groups have done it. And we can do it too. Enough is Enough!

Business Man Magic Johnson Inspires Young People
Today and was a Super Star that Helped Take the NBA
to Another Level

In fact if people are going to protest and boycott we should demand or stipulate that Donald Sterling and the NBA set aside millions for a microfinance platform to fund Black and Minority businesses or invest in a crowd funding platform for black business development.
It wouldn't make all our emotional pain go away but it would be a start in the right direction. Let's get some money to start businesses especially in NBA venues. How about that?

I'm not saying we can solve all our problems with Black business development but at least we can cut down on supporting businesses what have total disdain for us.

But if you really want to make a change in the dynamics of some wealthy business owners and their contempt towards their own players and patrons of color - let's make a long term goal of building and supporting our own Black business more. But 1st...

Peeps stop going around thinking we don't have super successful Black businesses. And Oprah and Tyler Perry aren't our Biggest Black businesses. Stop it already!

We got people running businesses doing 5 Billion dollars a year in technology and almost 2 billion in human resources. We have businesses now that dwarf our biggest businesses of 30 years ago like Ebony, Jet, and Black Enterprise.

But many Black People don't even know it. They go around saying there aren't any successful black businesses. Did you know there are over 144,000 black businesses with revenues over 1 million dollars a year? Did you know there are over 850,000 Black business? (Source US census).

David Steward, runs the 5 Billion Dollar
Earning Company Worldwide Technologies

This crap pisses me off. Read more about black business now before you spew negative opinions. Worldwide Technologies run by David Steward, does over 5 billion dollars a year in tech according to Black Enterprise.  That's not far from Facebook type income at 7.8 Billion in 2013 (according to Wikipedia) without doing an IPO selling stock or going to the capital markets.

It's privately owned and built to 5 billion dollars! Do people know just how incredible that is?

And all I do is see this B.S. on Facebook and social media 24/7 about no real successful black businesses. The top Black businesses are not in entertainment or media anymore they are in tech, food services, corporate services, and manufacturing.

If we financed and supported Black businesses more they could hire and inspire more of us. Way over a million people are self employed or employed by black business. It could be a lot more..

Janice Bryant Howroyd runs the 2nd
Largest Black Business Act-1

Ms. Janice Bryant Howroyd, owns the 2nd largest Black Owned Business at almost 2 billion dollars in 2013 (1.9 billion according to Black Enterprise). According to her website she "is the Founder and CEO of the ACT•1 Group, a global leader in deploying talent and resource management solutions.

International in scope and resources, her company creates and implements innovative technologies and business services that allow firms to optimize their workforce and bottom line through optimal resource management." You can see the rest of the Black Enterprise 100 by clicking here  

Don't just Get Mad - Get Even MORE Black Businesses started and Supported. OK that's the end of my Black Business Revolution Rant!

I'm also going to post ways we can support black businesses and nonprofits which teach young people to become black businesses owners and professionals. Here's some Black businesses we can support to help us achieve black economic empowerment.

Black Business Network Websites

Black Enterprise

Purchase Black.com


Black Youth Business Training Organizations

Future Executives

World of Money


Black Finance Organizations to Raise Funding for Black Businesses

Project Enterprise

Black eCommerce Sites

AfriCreations

About the Publisher of Kamau's Qu!ps

Kamau's Qu!ps is Published by Kamau Austin. Kamau is a popular Blogger, Writer, and Internet Marketing Professional helping small businesses grow more profitable businesses online. If you need web design, blogging, search engine or social media promotion contact him at Search Engine Plan

Kamau's Qu!ps reaches over 30,000 web users a month through it's Blog and Social Media Promotions. For Advertising Opportunities visit Search Engine Plan.com 

Push Past the Pain and Get Over Your BS an Interview Shanon Sumesar-Rai

Shanon Sumesar-Rai AKA
Shanon Nelson, MBA 

Today I get a chance to showcase the Spiritual and Success insights of one of the most inspirational Sistas of Social Media I've had the pleasure of knowing Ms. Shanon Sumesar-Rai. She has recently married and formerly known as Shanon Nelson.

Shanon is one of the few women I've known personally who has raised 4 children and also earned an MBA and was a college professor in International Business. That's quite impressive "in my book."

Speaking of books, Shanon is also the author of two uplifting books entitled "Push Past the Pain" and Get Over Your BS. Both are very economically and personally empowering literary works.

She wrote these two books within about a month of each other. This points to her incredible ability to accomplish challenging tasks leading towards her success.

Before I get to her interview, let me first share with you a few of her insightful thoughts I call "Shanonisms."

"As you evolve, grow, change and BECOME the woman, wife, etc. you were DESTINED to be, your message WILL CHANGE, your LIFE will change, your demeanor will CHANGE. Life is about Choices, Challenges and Change. For those unwilling to follow you as you CHANGE, potentially miss out on their opportunity to change and ultimately to be BLESSED in the same manner in which you have been."

 "Take the HIGH Road, return a BLESSING for an insult."

"Relationships are a paying it forward exchange, however there are times that reciprocation is not always evident. Just keep loving. The Good book knows BEST, you will reap that in which you sow (eventually)!"

"TRUE LOVE:: I think the key is to FIND YOUR INNER BEAUTY. Work on "becoming" that in which you've always wanted to be. That time of solace and aloneness is for YOU to get Your 'ish' together!!! If you'd like to be sexier, work out and eat properly. Always wanted a career, perhaps get back in school and draft out that career path. Want to be a mommy and don't have a daddy..Consider adoption or sperm donors...FIND YOU (sometimes one loses oneself in relationships) Again, I reiterate, FIND YOU---and then BE IT, whatever IT is for you!!! Before long if a relationship or true love is what you truly desire...It will FIND you, right where you're supposed to be--Being YOU!!! Trouble don't last always...Tough people do!! You can do it!!"

Insights by Shanon Nelson

The Interview with Shanon Sumesar-Rai AKA Shanon Nelson

I asked my buddy "Shan" some questions on her background and insights on success.

Kamau: Professor Nelson can you tell us What’s the Name of Your Company and how do you look to help entrepreneurs?

Shanon: The name of my company is Shanon Nelson International. I look to empower women entrepreneurs that have discipline, commitment, and willingness to Change their Belief System to be successful in their business and have a greater fulfillment in their personal lives.

Kamau: Ms. Nelson can you tell us a little bit about your background, like where you grew up and went to school?

Shanon Nelson was Recently Married to Jon Sumesar-Rai 

Shanon: I grew up in a small town, Gainesville, Florida. Really there is nothing spectacular here other than the University of Florida and of course their respective Football and Basketball teams. GO GATORS!!! I actually enjoy sports believe it or not! But this is where I was born and raised and it’s really a nice suburban city to raise children in.

Kamau: When did you decide you wanted to help small business people and women?

Shanon: Well, I’m a business chameleon; I’ve been involved in about every business, MLM, or joint venture that I can think of. Some went very well, and others were learning experiences and an opportunity to personally develop others.

For example, it took me one time to go to a Tax Deed Sale and purchase a property that I had NEVER SEEN before to realize the importance of making sure the Roof and AC unit is in good working condition before purchasing a rehab house. Thank Goodness the Roof and AC were fine in this home, but I took a huge risk.

So I purchased a 20K, 2 bedroom house for less than 3K from my savings. Don’t tell me what single mothers can’t do. With that tax return refund go buy yourself a FIXER UPPER. Just be sure to SEE the house first, have some subcontractors that you trust on hand, and do your research on Tax Deed Sales.

Also, consider partnering with other single women who want to grow their real estate portfolios and begin one house at a time or one Single Tenant Net Lease Investment. That would be amazing! Be sure to get in touch with me after on Facebook and share your success stories! I enjoy receiving those from people.

Kamau: At what point in your life did you decide you wanted to become an entrepreneur?

Shanon: For me it had to have been my senior year of college. I graduated Fall 2001, so that must have been around Fall 2000.

I had gone through a myriad of majors from Law to Engineering and then Management Information Systems which was a hybrid of Business Management and Technology. That FIT!

So I stuck with it, but I read this book Rich Dad, Poor Dad my senior year of college and the book literally SHOOK the paradigm that I had been taught for so many years. I was like, I've been duped!

Kiyosaki shared how important it was to own your own business and invest in assets which allowed one to enjoy great tax advantages. For example, Employees earn, get taxed on what they earn and then they try to live on what is left.

A corporation (business) earns, spends everything it can, and is taxed on anything that is left. Essentially, by owning your own business-vacations are board meetings in Hawaii. Car payments, insurance, repairs are company expenses. Health club membership is a company expense. Most gourmet meals at restaurants are partial expenses. Who couldn’t get used to that?

Kamau: Who were some of your role models that influenced you to go into business?

Shanon: Robert Kiyosaki, Donald Trump –due to– Their Mindset! Despite what was going on in their lives they persevered and succeeded.

Trump’s been bankrupt, Kiyosaki and his wife have been homeless, but they didn’t allow their circumstances to dictate how they’d end up. They persevered and now one has built a billion dollar empire and the other is well on his way. I’d say they are doing very well!





Kamau: What were some of the biggest challenges to you becoming successful in life?

Shanon: Fear of Failure and Unbelief.  I got a hold of one of John Maxwell’s books Failing Forward and realized that failure was simply information (feedback) to be utilized to succeed going forward on the next business venture or a way to monetize the failure by becoming an infopreneur and preventing others from making the same mistakes that I had.

I was able to BREAK the spirit of Fear over my life because I took on the mantra ‘Failure Inspires Winners & Failure Defeats Losers’.  Repeating Fran Tarkenton’s quote: “Winning means being unafraid to lose.”

People like Fran are not afraid of losing because they know who they are.  They hate losing so they are inspired to become better! It’s OK to be afraid or a bit nervous. To be quite honest it helps prepare you for greatness! You have to WORK at BEING ON POINT for that Keynote, Seminar, or Workshop—because you realize that you are only as good as your last success.

Kamau: When did you decide that the Internet is a place that you wanted to do business?

Shanon: Well a few years ago I got stuck with a course at the college that NOBODY desired to teach– International Business. And at first it was a bit intimidating because I haven’t traveled extensively although I desire to.

I searched and there weren't many, if any grants, stipends, anything out there for Professors to go abroad and do business during the summer or for a few weeks, just to get a sense of how foreigners do business. So much of my Business Management expertise was from experience, and all of my international business expertise was from a textbook from others with the experiences.

It was a bit intimidating at first because many of my students knew more about their native countries than I did in terms of business because they grew up there and I only had information from periodicals, text books, video documentaries, etc. But when I really got out of my own way and ran the class as if we were all professionals with specific expertise that each needed in order to succeed — it was a success!  Somebody say PERSPECTIVE.

I assigned 15-20 page research papers (with credible, verifiable, references) to the students so that I could vicariously live through them and learn the systems of the different countries. If I desired to know more about specific countries, I’d specially request that someone take that country.

I learned so much about the way countries conducted business and what the strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats of doing business in that particular country were. The more I wanted to know, the more refined the assignment became.

I was ELATED because it was no longer from a textbook author’s research (which I’m CERTAIN is VALID), but from natives from all over the world.

And the best part is each semester we have an International Day where the students either purchase or cook a native dishes from their country. OOOOOOO…NOW that’s FUN and YUMMY!!!

Kamau: What makes your products or services unique or different from other business gurus and speakers?

Shanon: I have a variety of experiences and expertise as a Professor, Author, Speaker, Licensed Real Estate Agent, Investor and Minister…I mean what haven’t I done? I have a GENUINE HEART for people and the DESIRE to see them succeed in their goals.

I LOVE PEOPLE!! It’s about sharing with someone else my secrets to success so that they too can have joy, peace, financial security, good kids, meaningful relationships, and their own business.  I’m sure other speakers are also phenomenal, but God only made ONE SHANON!

I don’t just make products for the sake of selling a product or service, quite frankly I give just as much away, you just have to be on my mailing lists and apart of my network to be close enough to get those things. I have a vested interest in the success of my clients.

Kamau: What are your top suggestions for people looking to become successful?

Shanon: I usually charge BIG BUCKS for this but I’ll go ahead and give it away to right now, but be sure to purchase my book within the next 24 hours and contact me and I’ll throw in my Millionaire Mindset MP3 set.

But what are my top suggestions for people looking to become successful.

1. Strengthen your RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD or your personal deity.

2. PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT is the Umbilical Cord to your sustenance. You can’t thrive and survive without building your mind up DAILY. You have to put as MUCH PRESSURE as you can on ACHIEVING THAT IN WHICH YOU SAY THAT YOU WANT.

If success to you is being more FIT, you must put PRESSURE on that desire by CHANGING your eating habits, INVESTING in assistance (Hiring a Trainer) and Mentally Preparing yourself for a CHALLENGE.

Today as I sweated my buns off with my trainer I continued to say aloud, NO EXCUSES, ONLY RESULTS when I was tired or felt like quitting. I heard Muhammad Ali say that when he was training he didn't even start counting until it hurt…Imagine how much DISCIPLINE that took to PUSH PAST THE PAIN and INTO PURPOSE.

3. DISCIPLINE You can do ANYTHING if you’re willing to WORK FOR IT! There will be BRICK WALLS along the way, but as Randy Pausch, former Carnegie Melon Professor, Walls are there to SHOW us how badly we want something. If you aren’t willing to PUSH PAST SOME PAIN, you don’t want it badly enough.

4. COMMITMENT You must be willing to endure during the tough times.  Let’s take marriage for example. It’s not always that buoyant feeling we felt on our wedding day, but we made a commitment through richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part. We must be as committed to our dreams, businesses, and vision. You won’t accomplish anything you refuse to commit to do.

5. PERSEVERANCE As I said the road won’t always be easy, but the REWARDS will be! Trouble doesn't last always. It can’t. We must pick ourselves up, dust the dirt off and STAY LASER FOCUSED ON OUR GOALS.

Kamau: Can you tell us about what inspired you to write Get Over Your B.S.?

Order Get Over Your BS

Shanon: Well, I had written a book entitled "Push Past The Pain and Into Your Purpose" and sent it to my Business Coach to review, and while he enjoyed the book he felt that I really didn’t share my qualifications for being able to discuss pain. LOL! (Business Folk) Always looking for Qualifications.

So he suggested that I write another book that would tell my story….OOOOOoooo, that was tough for me because like Langston Hughes, Life for me aint been no Crystal Stair. I was a bit embarrassed to share my story, I felt that I was now polished and no one would ever imagine where I came from so - why must I do this!

As quickly as I begin giving him all the reasons I could not, he continued reminding me of my vision, purpose, and goals that I had shared with him prior. Needless to say, I did it! And it emphasizes the importance of Mindset. “My brain gets stronger every day because I exercise it.”

Kamau: Where can people get more info and look to obtain your products and services.

Shanon: You can follow me on Facebook at Push Past the Pain or order my book Get Over Your B.S. at Amazon 

Check out this Youtube Video by Shanon Sumesar-Rai (formerly Shanon Nelson)

About the Publisher of Kamau's Qu!ps

Kamau's Qu!ps is Published by Kamau Austin. Kamau is a popular Blogger, Writer, and Internet Marketing Professional helping small businesses grow more profitable businesses online. If you need web design, blogging, search engine or social media promotion contact him at Search Engine Plan

Kamau's Qu!ps reaches over 30,000 web users a month through it's Blog and Social Media Promotions. For Advertising Opportunities visit Search Engine Plan.com 

What can we Learn from Carols Daughter Recent Filing for Bankruptcy Protection?

Carol's Daughter Founder Lisa Price
picture courtesy Associated Press

Yesterday it was reported in the Wall Street Journal's "Bankruptcy Beat" digital section that Carol's Daughter had filed for Chapter 11 Bankruptcy protection. I became aware of this only today.

Here is how the article started out "Companies affiliated with Carol’s Daughter filed for Chapter 11 bankruptcy protection Thursday in connection with the beauty brand’s move to close most of its stores." Wow I remember Carol's Daughter from back in the day. 

I remember when Carol's Daughter was just a neighborhood business starting out because I'm from NYC and lived in Brooklyn a few blocks from the original store for many years. I even met the Founder Lisa Price when she first started out. I even remember when I  first noticed her early distribution of products to other Black specialty and Afrocentric stores.

Later her products got national attention on Oprah, and drew celebrity investors like Will Smith, Jada Pinkett-Smith, and Jay Z. It was not the 1st neighborhood business I had seen go national or international. However, since she is a "Brooklyn home gurl" I want to see her do well.

I understand Lisa Price no longer owns Carol's Daughter it is owned by the private equity firm Pegasus Capital Advisors. However, just what is her present involvement is sketchy and seems to be not easily publicly available for obvious reasons.  

When I first saw this headline online I thought, this isn't the end of the world. How many times did Donald Trump and other brands do the same thing? 

Popular Carol's Daugther
Product

I read this stuff all the time in the Wall Street Journal. Lisa is making big moves and sometimes things don't work out.

Nevertheless, Black women are patrons of this brand and are understandably worried about its future. Having personally meet Lisa Price a couple of times I am confident she and the Carol's Daughter brand will emerge from this bankruptcy protection stronger than ever.

The strong impression I had of her is she is a resilient and resourceful business mogul. I am confident She will regroup and probably come back stronger.

Moreover, I read her business challenges are due to her retail expansion and that her retail stores weren't profitable since 2010. I can relate to this scenario.

The Wall Street Journal Reports "In new court papers filed Thursday afternoon, Mr. Elmer said most Carol’s Daughter stores have been unprofitable since 2010. Before the bankruptcy filing, the company closed all but two of its seven stores and terminated 29 of its 42 employees. It hopes to use its time in Chapter 11 to reorganize and consolidate its operations around its two open stores, in Brooklyn and Harlem. Besides the stores, Carol’s Daughter products are offered for sale on its website and through such third parties as the Home Shopping Network and Sephora."

After reading this I had to reflect on my retail experience as an owner of a couple of boutiques in the past. Retail is a notoriously tough business.  I learned in retail that even big corporations like the Gap are hard pressed to make a bottomline of 15% net profit. This is well known in the retail industry.

Retail has long hours, high start-up costs and overhead, HIGH capital expenditures, shrinkage, spoilage, and low profits. I had a couple of retail stores and know from personal experience it is a tough business.

Retail is a brutal business. Word to the wise stay out of retail! I could have told her that. She did Retail in Brooklyn or Harlem OK she was pushing it.

Popular Carol's Daughter
Product

But national retail? Hell Naw, peeps stay out of retail unless you're publicly traded with a large market cap like the Gap. Nothing good can come of it.

LOL! Seriously retail is tough you better know what you’re doing from every angle doing retail!

This is why you don't see a lot of Black businesses in retail in our neighborhoods. Many entrepreneurs and Black business people are sticking with ecommerce and wholesale. You'll lose your lunch doing retail. OMgoodness! Retail NOT Good! Gezz

Even if you have a promising retail business like I did the landlord can raise your rent exponentially or ask for a percentage of your sales. If you do retail try to own the building or you're in for trouble.

Nope I'll stay online like Amazon it is much more promising and less risky - thank you very much!

Lisa Price is a smart business woman and I think she will regroup and come back more business savvy. More importantly Carol's Daughter has other significant business supplying to over 2000 other retail outlets. She still has a strong business. You can read the full Wall Street Article here.

Essential Practical Advice for Retail Business Owners

To end this article on a more constructive note if you are thinking about owning a retail business here are some suggestions you may want to consider:

1. The most important thing in Retail is: Location, Location, Location, Location! Without a great location you are going to die a fast death. Don't go for a location even just 100 feet from a great location you will die a slower death - but you will die!  Did I mention get a great Location?

2. Have plenty of cash and financing in place to pay for a high traffic location, expensive renovation, and lots of stock at the very least.

3. Try to see if you can get the landlord to renovate or find a high traffic retail location which will take a minimum amount of renovation. If you have to build new walls, fixtures, etc. It is gonna cost a lot of money.

4. Understand the seasonal highs and lows of your business. In some seasons you may make a lot of money like around the holidays but around the summer your business may be almost dead. Manage your cash flow accordingly or ELSE!

5. Take meticulous records of what sells and what doesn't. Get smarter every season about what items sell the best and others that don't perform well. Typically you will have a 20/80 rule.  Twenty percent (20%) of your merchandise will make about 80% of your sales. Mark the others down and move it out fast to make way for what sells better in future seasons.

6. Digitalize your business as much as possible. You'll need to supplement your retail income with e-commerce these days to stay viable. Consider starting an Amazon and eBay marketing presence in addition to your local retail business. Please remember eBay/Pay Pal and Amazon are doing hundreds of billions of dollars in e-commerce. That's a lot of money. If you can't beat them join them. Multiple streams of income to survive in retail is needed in an e-commerce world just sayin!

7. Create a powerful Internet marketing strategy. This is also apart of digitizing your business. I work with a lot of local businesses these days and you have to have a strong online marketing presence to grow and even protect your business brand.

Google and Facebook refer billions of people to local businesses throughout the world these days. Some of the things you want to do are create a Google G+ local business page, a website, blog, social media presence, and select a email marketing platform to direct people to your local business. We are living in a time of geo-targeting local business technologies. If you have no idea what I'm writing about or want to learn more contact me at Search Engine Plan

Also for more Info about ownership issues at Carol's Daughter and Retail challenges see the comments on the end of this post. My Facebook friends helped get more information on this breaking business story! 

See How Carol's Daughter is using a digital marketing Strategy Below...

     

About the Publisher of Kamau's Qu!ps

Kamau's Qu!ps is Published by Kamau Austin. Kamau is a popular Blogger, Writer, and Internet Marketing Professional helping small businesses grow more profitable businesses online. If you need web design, blogging, search engine or social media promotion contact him at Search Engine Plan

Kamau's Qu!ps reaches over 30,000 web users a month through it's Blog and Social Media Promotions. For Advertising Opportunities visit Search Engine Plan.com 

Why Do Opposites Attract? Reflections by Cayenne Kelly

Cayenne Kelly Gives Us Her
Take on the "Everyone is Your
Mirror" by Tania Kotsos 

Do Opposites Attract in Relationships? Or Does Like Actually Attract Like? This has always been a puzzle to me.

When mysteries confound me I check in with my Facebook Friends who are the smartest and best looking people on the planet. Cayenne Kelly, brilliantly breaks down this oxymoron type paradox on relationships today.

She shares with us some ideas expressed from the relationship article "Everyone is Your Mirror." It is written by Tania Kotsos, I'm glad she shared some of the salient points with us. 

Cayenne is a relationship deep thinker and filmmaker and she reflects on the subject with her characteristic insightful aplomb and shares some brilliant gems to mirror our souls. Checkout how Cayenne cogitates on this complex article and gives us serious food for thought. Cayenne Fill us in on your take from "Everyone is Your Mirror"...

Reconciling Opposite Attractions in Relationships by Cayenne Kelly

Reconciling Opposites Attract with Like Attracts Like: You may have heard that opposites attract and indeed this often appears to be the case. So how can relationships always be your mirror if opposites attract?

The answer lies in the Law of Polarity that states that "everything is dual, everything has poles; everything has its pair of opposites; opposites are identical in nature, but different in degree". In other words, qualities that appear to be opposites are in fact two extremes of the same quality.

Eva Marcille and Kevin McCall
Courtesy People's Magazine

For instance hot and cold may appear to be opposite but are varying degrees of that which we call temperature. The same applies to all human qualities and emotions.

You may find that the quality you see in your partner appears to be the opposite of your own quality, but in fact it is the same quality expressed in a different way. It is still your mirror.

For example, the introvert attracts the extrovert, the weak attracts the strong, the giving attracts the taking. Such seemingly opposite partners attract each other so that they can learn from each other and bring their own extreme quality into balance.

In order to attract your opposite, you yourself have to be at the other end of the spectrum and so are unbalanced as far as that quality is concerned. Simply put, opposites attract in search of balance.

When none of your qualities are at either extreme of the spectrum, then you can no longer attract its opposite. Cayenne Kelly also writes it "All goes back to balance is the key to life"

More from Cayenne on how opposites balances relationships - If both are already well adjusted and balanced... Not perfect... but as balanced as needed to make a relationship work. If two people are level headed, thoughtful, honest, good communicators, and anything else that is beneficial to a relationship... then they have much in common that forms a "good team."

But if both are argumentative, disrespectful, deceitful, defensive, manipulators (pick a reality TV couple and insert here...you know the ones lol) then they have much in common that forms what I'd call a "bad team."

Sometimes we need that opposite to help show us another way to be that assists in our balance. Like the cliche couple of a man who appears weak and cowardly and a woman who is overbearing and aggressive.

Scene from The Best Man Holiday

It often plays out that he gets pushed too far and finally stands up for himself. Like the couple in the Best Man... the guy with the locs and the woman that had him around her finger.

Eventually... picked up some of her strength and stood up for himself. It all depends on where we are in regards to our characteristics and emotions.

Are we on one extreme or the other? Or closer to the middle?

My Reflections - This is an awesome topic of further exploration. Human survival and evolution constantly at work in this synergistic opposite polarity thingy. Good exploration of the subject. Why don't you share your ideas on this topic. Checkout the full relationship article written by Tania Kotsos  "Everyone is Your Mirror."  

About the Publisher of Kamau's Qu!ps

Kamau's Qu!ps is Published by Kamau Austin. Kamau is a popular Blogger, Writer, and Internet Marketing Professional helping small businesses grow more profitable businesses online. If you need web design, blogging, search engine or social media promotion contact him at Search Engine Plan

Kamau's Qu!ps reaches over 30,000 web users a month through it's Blog and Social Media Promotions. For Advertising Opportunities visit Search Engine Plan.com